History

Mutual
Recovery

FAQ

Walking
In
Victory

Complete Total, and Whole
Recovery for the marriage, for the husband and for the wife, means that:

1. Any healing that has occurred in either individual adds to the completeness of the union, and
     
2. That any area that is lacking healing detracts from the whole.

Collective Utilization: A couple can (together) use the 12 step recovery program in their marriage as a healing process. Both must be involved.

Step One: We (together) admitted that we (together) had become powerless over_______________ in our married life, and that our lives (together) were unmanageable. (Blank space example: deviceness & strife; excessive & frivolous spending; how to nurture/ discipline children; silence & division; etc.)

Step Two: We (together) came to believe that through Jesus Christ we (and our marriage) could be restored to right relationship (with each other) with God the Father and subsequent sanity and stability in our married lives.

Step Three: We (together) made the corporate decision to turn from the individual things of the past and invite Jesus to be the Lord and Manager of our marriage.

Step Four: We (together) made a searching and fearless moral inventory of our marriage (Our relationship to each other and with the Lord).

Step Five: We (together) admitted to God, ourselves, and other human beings (another couple) the exact nature of our wrongs.

Step Six: We (together) were entirely ready to have God remove all our connubial defects (Married state).

Step Seven: We (together) humbly ask Him to remove our shortcomings of Marriage and to forgive us - believing He would remove them-and together receive His forgiveness.

Step Eight: We (together) made a list of all the people (especially our children and our parents) we had harmed and together we became willing to make amends to them all.

Step Nine: We (together) made a direct amends to such people, wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Step Ten: We (together) continue to take inventory of our marriage, and when we were wrong promptly admit it.

Step Eleven: We (together) sought through prayer and meditation on God's word to increase our corporate fellowship with Him. Praying continually for the knowledge of His will for our marriage and the power of His Might to accomplish it.

Step Twelve: We, together in our marriage union, having been spiritually restored and set free from "the sin which so easily beset us," we attempt to share this freedom, and the one who has freed us with those who still suffer (with a troubled marriage) and practice the principals in all our affairs.