Family Members Codependency Questionnaire
Check box if answer is "Yes'

1. My relationships often involve people who need my help or are somehow dependent on me.

2. When I feel I've helped someone, I experience a "high" a sense of success.

3. It is important to be needed.

4. I often find myself  "in the middle," giving advise, counseling others.

5. On several occasions people have become angry when I have tried to help.

6. I seem to know when bad things are about to occur.

7. I spend a lot of time thinking through or replaying scenes, trying to figure out  what I can do to effect desired outcomes.

8. I seem to have difficulty starting and maintaining healthy relationships.

9. It's difficult for me to receive praise or care from others.

10. I do not like to let myself get angry. When I do, I often lose control.

11. It's difficult for me to say "No."

12. It's difficult for me to ask for things that I need. (Work, home, family.)

13. I often over commit my time or over promise myself.

14. It is hard for me to act silly, have fun or relax.

15. If I'm not productive, I feel worthless.

16. It's difficult to believe that someone could truly love me.

17. I am afraid of really allowing myself to love.

18. I am afraid of being abandoned or being alone.

19. Sometimes I think I expect to be hurt.

20. I find it easy to criticize and blame others.

21. I seem to justify or make excuses for others actions when they have hurt me.

22. When I know a relationship is about to end, I will stay in it. I will stay until  I can begin another dependent relationship.

23. It is easy to make me feel guilty and accept blame. I will take responsibility for others.  Somehow things end up being my fault.

24. I am not sure what normal is.

25. I often take a stand in a relationship and then go back on what I said I would do.  It seems as though I get sucked in again and again.

26. My circle of friends seems to have diminished.

27. I am not aware of what I want. I ask others what they want.

28. I tend to be sick a lot. I can't seem to fight off infection.

29. There never seems to be enough time to do things just for me; things I would enjoy doing.

If you have checked "Yes" to 3 or more of these statements, you probably have a problem with codependency.